Pressure, jealousy, “over” motivation, social media pressure, what ever it might be, I’ve felt it a lot this past couple of months.
Social media is kind of amazing thing, you can find new friends, contacts, get positive inspiration and motivation, but there is also the other side in it.
All that can turn to a pressure to be better, faster, stronger, healthier, whatever it might be. People, me including sometimes, have this thing that they like to show the good and not so much the bad in their postings. And all that “good” can start being little intimidating over time, especially when your own journey is still beginning. All over you feel that you need to do more, be faster, eat wayyy better, might feel guilty about things that you really shouldn’t, feel jealous of that one girl who is getting a lot of coverage and you feel like “why, I’m doing so much too”.
I think there is a fine line with being motivating and being a bully. I’m all up for personal victories being up there, because that is motivating to the max to see that someone works hard and is proud of that! But there is also way of putting others down because they aren’t as something as you. That is just pure wrong. I think many forget at some point we all really did start from the ground. Even if you have been into sports your whole life, you didn’t shoot out of the womb with all that hard work in you ready to go. Yes, there are people who have natural talent, but that’s minority of us.
I have this thing that I do when I’m running. I try to smile to everyone and try to say “Hello” to all of them too, even if they don’t look like they have any interest to respond. But I do it because it gave me this feeling when I was in the start of my journey last January, that I belonged and it just purely made me feel good. Especially when the run was feeling rough, that random smile might have made everything feel better. I try to remember that feeling and keep smiling to who ever comes running or walking past me. We all start from somewhere!
I also think it would be way better to those people who are thinking of starting some exercise, to feel that we all are in this together. When you start take things too seriously, you can easily loose the happiness of what you’re doing. I like to work hard, I’m starting to get back to that mindset that pushing yourself little bit harder makes me better at what I find my passion. And it’s also totally okay to have days when you completely hate going and doing something, that is normal. Usually after your exercise you feel better, so there is a reason to keep going.
We already live in a world where we have to all the time be something else than we are inside of us. Less this, more this, blaablaablaa and then we wonder why kids are all messed up and why there is so many people suffering from depression… I have never understood why we need to be the same?! That doesn’t make any sense to me. But be who you are is pretty much the hardest thing to do, when you don’t even have idea what that is. It’s hard to listen that small, very smart, voice inside when the outside world is bombing you with other things that you should be.
I have been battling with that and I’m almost 30 now and finally have found that trust in me. It doesn’t mean that it’s easy, it’s super hard, but I have found my voice slowly and I really like who I am becoming. My gut feeling is pretty much always right and every time I listen to something else, I don’t feel too good. For me this all came with the form of feeling like a loser, because I felt that I can’t train as hard as my running app calculated me to be. Sounds stupid and it was! I felt that I should be able to but my body was saying no you have to take is slower. I felt that I am seriously loser for not being able to push myself harder… Thank you for couple of my friends who I talked about this, they made me calm down and realize that I am good as I am and that I’m doing really good and that my body is smarter than my head. Thank you!
I think it’s super important to talk about how hard certain things are. It makes us remember where we started and appreciate the things we’ve done and be proud of that progress. Running is not always easy, no way, it sucks at times big time, but like any other sport or passion, if you keep going it will get easier and you’ll love it again, and then there will be bad days again and good after them.
Honesty is something we all need to practice more, me including. The pressure to be something else than we are comes sometimes from outside but there are a lot times when it comes from inside of us, from those insecurities that we all have. But more important is to be okay with them and still stand in front of the mirror and say to yourself “you are strong, I love you, I’m proud of you and you can!”. And, yes that’s not always easy either but if you say it everyday, it will stick. I know, because I have been doing it for the last 6 months :).
So, let’s be STRONG, let’s LOVE ourselves, let’s be PROUD of ourselves and let’s DO whatever our hearts desire!
Here’s couple amazing articles from one of my favorite blogs Spikes and Heels, about this topic. They made me think of it more and really made me want to write about it too.